Q Hello I am 28 years newly married .i am sexually weak ,the time duration is not enough .what can i do??

What you face is called as performance anxiety. It is common among newly married mens. The reason behind it is nervousness in front of your partner or doing the act in hurry. For most couples the duration of sex is betwee 3-7 mins. So if you are in this category you need not worry. How ever you can follow these simple measures to improve your time. Pace slowly. Give more time to foreplay. Do not hurry. Try to do sex more often. Over a period of time it will improve. If not planning for pregnancy then use a thick condom. It will delay the sensation to your penis and will help you to last long. You can also practice stop-start method. Divert your mind to non sexual thought the moment to feel you are about to ejaculate and once you are relaxed restart again.

Q My underarms have become dark. I wax regularly and don~t use any hair removal creams. Can you please suggest something?

Excessive sweating is the main cause of dark underarms. Make sure not to keep the underarm hair too long. Wax your underarms every 15 days. Tight clothes may cause excess sweating and affect the area. Friction can darken the underarm skin too. So, avoid wearing tight clothes as far as possible.n Gently exfoliate the underarm skin every week to remove the top layer of dead skin cells, which can cause darkening. To reduce darkening, scrub underarms daily with pumice stone while taking shower. Waxing removes hair from the roots and dead cells from armpits. Thus usually it does not darken underarms.

Q Having complain of white discharge and itching in vagina since 2 months my menstrual cycle is regular

The white discharge and itching in the vagina is suggestive of some infection in the area due to bacteria, virus or fungus. You have to take care of your hygiene. Wear cotton undergarments which increases air flow and decreases moisture. Wear loose-fitting clothing. Proper treatment of an infection is usually very effective. You must consult the physician to get the best possible treatment.

Q What can you tell me about Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a Mental Health disorder that generates significant emotional instability. This can lead to a variety of other stressful mental and behavioral problems. When you have borderline personality disorder, you often have an insecure sense of who you are. Your self-image, self-identity or sense of self often rapidly changes. You may view yourself as evil or bad, and sometimes you may feel as if you dont exist at all. An unstable self-image often leads to frequent changes in jobs, friendships, goals and values. This is because people with borderline personality disorder often have difficulty accepting gray areas; things seem to be either black or white. The common symptom of borderline personality disorder are overwhelming feelings of distress, anxiety, worthlessness or anger, difficulty managing such feelings without self-harming, for example by abusing drugs and alcohol or taking overdoses, difficulty maintaining stable and close relationships, sometimes, periods of loss of contact with reality, in some cases, threats of harm to others. Treatment may involve a range of individual and group psychological therapies (psychotherapy) carried out by trained professionals.

Q How can I tell when Im ovulating?

Ovulation usually occurs 12-15 days before your period starts. So if your periods are regular, you can easily determine your ovulation period by subtracting 14 days from the expected date of the next menstrual cycle. One in 5 women experience mild abdominal cramps when they are ovulating. You can also use a basal body thermometer to check your basal body temperature which shows the lowest reading followed by a sudden rise when you ovulate. During ovulation, your cervix becomes softer and gives out more discharge (mucus) than normal. You can also buy ovulation kit available in chemist to determine your ovulation.

Q After my break-up with my girlfriend, i started losing my hair and i am becoming bald day by day is this the reason or some other major problem with me. Please guide me & suggest me some remedy or therapy.

There are many factors that can cause hair loss. Stress, anxiety, and depression are surprisingly common causes of thinning scalp hair, and can be especially difficult to recognize and treat. But apart from these there can be several other causes like hereditary, infection, nutritional deficiency, thyroid imbalance etc.. Once you have noticed that you are losing your hair, the first step is to get a medical evaluation to determine the cause. Either your primary care or a dermatologist is a good place to start. Treatment can then be directed to any of the above underlying causes that are present. But meanwhile you can follow these advices: eat plenty of salads including green leafy vegetables like spinach lettuce, plateful of fruits, buttermilk, milk, curd, fish,egg, increase intake of peanuts and almond and walnut, have proper and sound sleep daily. Concentrating on future rather than dwelling on past can work.

Q My 10 year old daughter continues to wet the bed. Not every night, but i thought it would stop as she grows but still hasnt. I wonder if there is something medically wrong.

If you daughter has nocturnal enuresis sometimes, it may need further evaluation, as this is not so common in teenagers. There are some factors that may affect urine control in teens. These include excessive intake of caffeine drinks like tea or coffee, deep sleep pattern which can be a normal for growing teen, excessive emotional stress or fear of something, inconsistent sleep timings etc. These things can be corrected in order to fix the problem. Other things to give consideration are certain medications, diabetes of other medical diseases, family history of parents having the same problem, urinary tract infection, etc. If she is having this problem since her childhood, then this can be considered as primary nocturnal enuresis and she can be out of 2% of girls who continues with this till they reach their teen. This thing can be improved with proper counselling to her. Making her to use bathroom before going to bed. Limiting her fluid intake before going to bed. She can be effectively treated with moisture alarms while asleep. It will be less likely that she will need medications for this. Proper counselling and educating her may motivate her to take initiation to cure herself. You may take her to physician to rule out underlying disease if any.

Q Is chlamydia only caught through sexual contact?

Chlamydia is sexually transmitted disease. And it can pass from one person to other through vaginal, anal and oral sex. However it can be transmitted to the children by their mothers at the time of birth. The disease can remain insignificant for many years in women having the infection in cervical area.

Q A question about heart? If a 17 year old girl have a great pulse 150 hits in a minute means what type of problem she have please answer me

When the heart rate is above 100 per minute when at rest is called as tachycardia. So it is important to know whether the pulse was examined when at rest or after an exertion. If it was measured after an exertion then it should be rechecked when the girl is at rest. However if the resting heart beat per minute is more than 100 than an ECG is required to know the exact cause. However simple causes like fever, diarrhoea, severe infection can also cause tachycardia. Our advice would be that you consult a physician at the earliest.

Q Symptoms of high cholesterol

High cholesterol levels usually remain silent and produce no symptoms for several years. They can only be detected by routine blood tests such as lipid profile or when when they cause complications such as heart disease and stroke.