Q I am 30 years old divorcee. My son is very disturbed after our divorce. He remains sad most of the time and gets angry very quickly. What should I do to help him?

Separation of parents is always tough to deal with for kids. Kids are very attached to both the parents and react to the divorce with either feeling anxious, insecure, angry, or sad. It may result in trouble coping at school, social withdrawal, aggression, and other social problems. Parents should help kids to deal with this separation by talking to them about their feelings. Reassurance plays an important role. Tell him that it will not affect the way you love him. Try to make him feel secured. Make sure not to display anger and resentment between you and your ex-partner in front of your kid. Let some time pass by. With time and support from parent, Kids adjust healthily to divorce. If your kid~s behavior remains same, then do seek professional help.

Q I am 15-year-old boy and I often think about sex. Is it normal, or am I a pervert?

It is absolutely normal to think about sex often. Thinking about sex once in a while or over and over again at this age is not attributed to any abnormality and does not make you a pervert. Hormonal fluctuations and changes in body that take place at teenage increase the curiosity about sexuality and your own body. You will start noticing and appreciating opposite gender, will be attracted to someone you like, daydream, and think about sex inevitably in dreams, while studying, or even when talking with friends. All this curiosity and sexual thoughts are natural.

Q How to deal with acute stress?

Relaxing or chilling out as they say is the easy and excellent way to deal with acute stress. The aim is to do something which would help you reorient yourself away from stress and get back to the normal state, similar to what you were before the stress hormones kicked in. You can do this by taking in some deep breaths and breathing the stress out. A quick warm bath can do the trick. Brisk walk or a small jog drains the stress. Speak the stress out to a friend. Count backwards from 10 to 1.This not only works in case of anger but also dissolves stress well. Figure out the acute stressors and incorporate meditation or yoga into routine to keep your calm through any stressful situation.

Q How contraceptive implant works?

Contraceptive implants contains synthetic version of the hormone progesterone which is released at slow rate. The released hormone provides contraception in following ways: stops ovulation, prevents sperms form meeting the egg by making cervical mucus thick and prevents implantation by making the lining of the uterus thin.rnrn 

Q I have been seeing faces on walls doors etc. Sometimes they are scary looking, and look like they are in pain. Sometimes they are peaceful looking. Ill see them in clusters, male, female, even babies faces.

Can you relate to any experience or incident after which you started seeing these faces? How long has it been since they started and how frequently does it happen? Are you suffering from or are on treatment for any other disease/disorder? Any addictions to smoking, alcohol, drugs etc? If these faces have been appearing recently, just ignore them for a while. Try to divert your attention and keep yourself busy. Theyll probably go away on their own. However, if you have been seeing these faces consistently, it would be wise to see a Mental Health practitioner who will be able to help you out.

Q What can i do if my child is overweight?

Overweight children are more likely to grow up into overweight adults, so your concern for raised weight of child is appropriate. It is usually better that the child maintains their current weight while they continue to grow in height. Making changes to your family~s lifestyle can make a real difference to your child~s weight. Eat regular meals, together as a first step towards a healthier diet. Use homemade food rather than relying on ready-made meals to help you to lower the fat and sugar content in your meals. Avoid the diet like snacks and meals that are high in fat or sugar, such as chocolate, biscuits, sweets and fizzy drinks, and aim to replace these with healthier alternatives such as fruits. Exercise is helpful to burn extra calories in your child. Kindly focus on light exercises done by your child like standing up, moving around, walking at a slow pace and less energetic play. Also active play (such as hide and seek and stuck in the mud), fast walking, riding a bike, dancing, swimming, climbing, skipping rope, gymnastics are helpful depending upon the age.

Q What is considered a serious mental illness?

Mental illnesses are serious medical illnesses. They cannot be overcome through "will power" and are not related to a persons "character" or intelligence. Serious mental illnesses include major depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), panic disorder, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and borderline personality disorder. The good news about mental illness is that recovery is possible. According SMI patient having 2-3 following mental symptoms persistent more than 1 year considered as serious mental illness- 1.Feeling, Mood, and Affect: Uncontrolled emotion. Marked change in mood. Depression and/or anxiety incapacitated person. Emotional responses are inappropriate to the situation. 2. Thinking: Severe impairment in concentration, persistence, and pace. Frequent or consistent interference with daily life due to impaired thinking. Presence of delusions and/or hallucinations. Frequent substitution of fantasy for reality. 3. Family: Disruption of family relationships. Family does not function as a unit and experiences frequent turbulence. 4. Interpersonal: Lacks close friends or group affiliations. Socially isolated. 5. Role Performance: Individual is unable to meet usual expectations. Unable to obtain or maintain employment and/or conduct daily living chores such as care of immediate living environment. 6. Socio-legal: Inability to maintain conduct within the limits prescribed by law, rules, and strong mores. Disregard for safety of others. Destructive to property. Involvement with law enforcement. 7. Self Care/Basic Needs: Disruption in the ability to provide for his/her own needs such as food, clothing, shelter, and transportation. Assistance required in obtaining housing, food and/or clothing. Unable to maintain hygiene, diet, clothing, and prepare food.

Q how to do anal sex? does it creat any problem?

Anal sex is practiced by many heterosexuals, as well as homosexual couples. The anal area has many erotic nerve endings in both men and women. Because of this, many couples (heterosexual or homosexual) can derive pleasure from some form of bottom stimulation. Anal sex should be avoided by couples in which one of the partners has been diagnosed with an STI until the treatment has proven to be effective. In order to make anal sex safer, the couple must ensure that the anal area is clean and the bowel empty and the partner on whom anal penetration occurs should be able to relax. Regardless of whether anal penetration occurs by using a finger or the penis, the condom is the best barrier method to prevent transmission of STI. Since the rectum can be easily damaged, the use of lubricants is highly recommended even when penetration occurs by using the finger. Especially for beginners, using a condom on the finger is both a protection measure against STI and a lubricant source. Most condoms are lubricated and they allow less painful and easier penetration. Anal stimulation with a sex toy requires similar safety measures to anal penetration with a penis, in this case using a condom on the sex toy in a similar way. It is important that the man washes and cleans his penis after anal intercourse if he intends to penetrate the vagina. Bacteria from the rectum are easily transferred to the vagina, which may cause vaginal infections. When anal-oral cos ntact occurs, protection is required since this is a risky sexual behavior in which illnesses as Hepatitis A or STIs can be easily transmitted, as well as enteric infections. The dental dam or the plastic wrap[citation needed] are effective protection means whenever anilingus is performed. Anal sex has a number of health risks. Anal intercourse is the riskiest form of sexual activity for several reasons, including the following: The anus lacks the natural lubrication the vagina has. Penetration can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the bloodstream. This can result in the spread of sexually transmitted infections including HIV. Exposure to the human papillomavirus (HPV) may also lead to the development of anal warts and anal cancer. Using lubricants can help some, but doesnt completely prevent tearing. The tissue inside the anus is not as well protected as the skin outside theanus. Our external tissue has layers of dead cells that serve as a protective barrier against infection. The tissue inside the anus does not have this natural protection, which leaves it vulnerable to tearing and the spread of infection. The anus was designed to hold in feces. Repetitive anal sex may lead to weakening of the anal sphincter, making it difficult to hold in feces until you can get to the toilet. The anus is full of bacteria. Even if both partners do not have a sexually-transmitted infection or disease, bacteria normally in the anus can potentially infect the giving partner. Practicing vaginal sex after anal sex can also lead to vaginal and urinary tract infections.

Q Is non-vegetarian food safe during pregnancy?

There is no harm in consuming non-vegetarian food during pregnancy. Infact eggs, chicken, fish etc are packed with nutrients which are beneficial for you as well as your baby. But care should be taken to maintain the highest standards of hygiene because non-vegetarian food is liable to become contaminated easily. Make sure you eat only well cooked non-veg food. Avoid anything that is raw or under cooked. Avoid fish which are high in mercury such as mackerel, swordfish, tuna, etc. As long as you follow these guidelines, you can safely consume non-vegetarian food.

Q My mother is 69 years, last year we accidntally came to know that she has polycystic kidney disease. She never had any symptoms of this disease. When she went for an ultra sound scan for porlonged cough, doctor deteced PKD, then a nephrologist suggested to go in for continuous dialysis and we have been doing the same twice a week. She is normal now. Should we continue doing dialysis? She is not BP or Sugar patient

Whether to continue with dialysis or not will depend upon how well is the kidney functioning. Frequency of dialysis can be decided only by nephrologist considering her response to the treatment. Do regular consultation with your doctor and follow his advises.