Q I have an 11 yr old son who has been diagnosed with ADHD, depression, anxiety and is borderline Asperger. Although we are getting better control of most of his symptoms through medication, he is still struggling with anger.
ADHD is complex and each person with ADHD is unique, its hard to make recommendations that work for every child. But some of the following suggestions may help create an environment in which your child can succeed to control his anger. 1. Show your child lots of affection. Children need to hear that theyre loved and appreciated. Focusing only on the negative aspects of your childs behavior can harm your relationship and affect self-confidence and self-esteem. If your child has a hard time accepting verbal signs of affection, a smile, a pat on the shoulder or a hug can show you care. 2. One of the best ways to deal with this problem is simply to spend time together. This should be a private time when no other children or adults interfere. Try to give your child more positive than negative attention every day. 3. Reward your child with privileges, praise, or activities, rather than with food or toys. 4.Speak slowly and quietly and be very specific and concrete. Give one direction at a time. 5. Try to avoid situations that are difficult for your child, such as sitting through long presentations etc. 6. Try to remain patient and calm when dealing with your child, even when your child is out of control. If youre calm, your child is more likely to model that behavior and become calm too.