Q I am diabetic and having erectile dysfunction and very late ejaculation. I do not have babies planning due to it. Why is erectile dysfunction caused in diabetes? What can I do?

Uncontrolled diabetes causes damage to small blood vessels and the nerves that control erection. Damage to these blood vessels and nerves leads to the development of erectile dysfucntion. As far as fathering a child is concerned if you have healthy sperm quantity and quality you need not worry. For erectile dysfunction it is necessary that you keep your blood sugar levels under control. Treatment options include oral medications, penis pumps, surgery and implants. Consult an andrologist to know what treatment option will suit you best.

Q My wife is not able to absorb the sperm after relationship and thats way she is not able to get pregnant.

After sexual intercourse it is normal for some amount of seminal fluid to ooze out from the vagina. This will not affect your wifes chance of getting pregnant. However if you are trying since more than a year and have not succeed than it is necessary that both of you get yourself examined. For female examination like ultrasonography and for males semen analysis is recommended.

Q how to do anal sex? does it creat any problem?

Anal sex is practiced by many heterosexuals, as well as homosexual couples. The anal area has many erotic nerve endings in both men and women. Because of this, many couples (heterosexual or homosexual) can derive pleasure from some form of bottom stimulation. Anal sex should be avoided by couples in which one of the partners has been diagnosed with an STI until the treatment has proven to be effective. In order to make anal sex safer, the couple must ensure that the anal area is clean and the bowel empty and the partner on whom anal penetration occurs should be able to relax. Regardless of whether anal penetration occurs by using a finger or the penis, the condom is the best barrier method to prevent transmission of STI. Since the rectum can be easily damaged, the use of lubricants is highly recommended even when penetration occurs by using the finger. Especially for beginners, using a condom on the finger is both a protection measure against STI and a lubricant source. Most condoms are lubricated and they allow less painful and easier penetration. Anal stimulation with a sex toy requires similar safety measures to anal penetration with a penis, in this case using a condom on the sex toy in a similar way. It is important that the man washes and cleans his penis after anal intercourse if he intends to penetrate the vagina. Bacteria from the rectum are easily transferred to the vagina, which may cause vaginal infections. When anal-oral cos ntact occurs, protection is required since this is a risky sexual behavior in which illnesses as Hepatitis A or STIs can be easily transmitted, as well as enteric infections. The dental dam or the plastic wrap[citation needed] are effective protection means whenever anilingus is performed. Anal sex has a number of health risks. Anal intercourse is the riskiest form of sexual activity for several reasons, including the following: The anus lacks the natural lubrication the vagina has. Penetration can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the bloodstream. This can result in the spread of sexually transmitted infections including HIV. Exposure to the human papillomavirus (HPV) may also lead to the development of anal warts and anal cancer. Using lubricants can help some, but doesnt completely prevent tearing. The tissue inside the anus is not as well protected as the skin outside theanus. Our external tissue has layers of dead cells that serve as a protective barrier against infection. The tissue inside the anus does not have this natural protection, which leaves it vulnerable to tearing and the spread of infection. The anus was designed to hold in feces. Repetitive anal sex may lead to weakening of the anal sphincter, making it difficult to hold in feces until you can get to the toilet. The anus is full of bacteria. Even if both partners do not have a sexually-transmitted infection or disease, bacteria normally in the anus can potentially infect the giving partner. Practicing vaginal sex after anal sex can also lead to vaginal and urinary tract infections.

Q When is it safe to have sex after an episode of heart attack?

It is natural to be concerned about being sexually active after a heart attack or other cardiovascular problem. Like any form of physical activity, having sex can make your heart work harder by increasing your heart rate and blood pressure. It is important to note that, if you do not experience cardiac symptoms such as chest pain, shortness of breath, and dizziness during exercise, you will not experience them during the sex. Most people can safely resume sexual activity a couple of weeks after a heart attack, if they have no serious complications. Like any form of physical activity, having sex can make your heart work harder by increasing your heart rate and blood pressure. You have to consult your physician about the fitness and the preventions during sex, to enjoy the moment.

Q Is non-vegetarian food safe during pregnancy?

There is no harm in consuming non-vegetarian food during pregnancy. Infact eggs, chicken, fish etc are packed with nutrients which are beneficial for you as well as your baby. But care should be taken to maintain the highest standards of hygiene because non-vegetarian food is liable to become contaminated easily. Make sure you eat only well cooked non-veg food. Avoid anything that is raw or under cooked. Avoid fish which are high in mercury such as mackerel, swordfish, tuna, etc. As long as you follow these guidelines, you can safely consume non-vegetarian food.

Q Though it takes lots of courage to commit suicide why suicidal people are called coward?

Committing suicide is considered wrong and unjustifiable. Suicide gives up all your future, everything you could have done, because you cant put up with the past or the present. People usually commit suicide when they lack the courage to go on. Its like giving up on the hope that things will ever get better. Under the influence of emotional despair, a suicidal person kills himself in total disregard for those who care for him, those who would have helped him. However at the same time, it is not right to call suicidal people cowards. In fact, they need maximum help and support from those around them. One should lend them a helping hand until they start feeling better about themselves and the situations in their life. There is light at the end of the tunnel. It is important for suicidal people to remember, "this too, shall pass."

Q What can you tell me about Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a Mental Health disorder that generates significant emotional instability. This can lead to a variety of other stressful mental and behavioral problems. When you have borderline personality disorder, you often have an insecure sense of who you are. Your self-image, self-identity or sense of self often rapidly changes. You may view yourself as evil or bad, and sometimes you may feel as if you dont exist at all. An unstable self-image often leads to frequent changes in jobs, friendships, goals and values. This is because people with borderline personality disorder often have difficulty accepting gray areas; things seem to be either black or white. The common symptom of borderline personality disorder are overwhelming feelings of distress, anxiety, worthlessness or anger, difficulty managing such feelings without self-harming, for example by abusing drugs and alcohol or taking overdoses, difficulty maintaining stable and close relationships, sometimes, periods of loss of contact with reality, in some cases, threats of harm to others. Treatment may involve a range of individual and group psychological therapies (psychotherapy) carried out by trained professionals.

Q Can kissing catch thrush from a female partner?

Yes. You can catch oral thrush by kissing from a female partner. The fungus causing the disease is present in the oral cavity of the patient and can easily spread to other during kissing.

Q Do walker and jumper help toddlers to learn walking quicker?

Though walker and baby-buggy are in fashion today, studies say that babies using walker learn to walk late! Walker facilitates babies to move around even before they are ready for it physically. This can lead to unusual patterns of movements and delayed muscle control. Walker and jumper restrict babys movements and do not allow the baby to move around and explore the things surrounding. Baby learns to move quickly when baby is on the floor on his belly, than when he is placed on high chair, walker or baby-buggy.

Q Sir, I am 30 years old.i have made all my checkups for HIV, all reports are ok. I want consult for my lip and for my penis. I had a white tiny dots on my lips inner side and on the head of penis. white dots on penis are from last 3 years and on my lips they are from one month. i dont know how it happens. but sure it occured after intercourse with my wife, some oral sex. i had some neat alcohol on the previous day when white dots appear. kindly please let me know why are these dots are on my lips and penis.

With the description that you gave it feels the the tiny white bumps that you have are fordyce spots. These are visible sebaceous glands that are present on genitals and in mouth. They are harmless and are not due to any disease or illness or sexually transmitted infection. They are benign are do not require any treatment. However exact diagnosis can only be made after an examination.