Q I am 43 year old man and my wife 41 year we have 4 year and 6 month daughter. We are very confused whether to go for second child as my only daughter feels very lonely. Can you advice?

First, determine whether you and your wife are physically, mentally and financially ready to have a second child. It is definitely possible to conceive at this age; however there are many factors that you should take into account before arriving at a decision. A womans fertility decreases drastically in her forties so there is a major possibility that your wife may have to use donor eggs to achieve pregnancy. The risk of complications during pregnancy such as diabetes and high blood pressure increases. Moreover, there are higher chances of premature and still births. You may need to use assisted reproductive techniques thus escalating costs. I am not trying to discourage you, but giving you the facts. On the other hand, some women do get pregnant well into their 40s, and many of them have complication-free pregnancies and healthy babies. Both of you should make an informed decision after knowing all the pros and cons. For any further clarification, visit a gynaecologist who will brief you about all available options. Do consider the possibility of adoption too.

Q how to do anal sex? does it creat any problem?

Anal sex is practiced by many heterosexuals, as well as homosexual couples. The anal area has many erotic nerve endings in both men and women. Because of this, many couples (heterosexual or homosexual) can derive pleasure from some form of bottom stimulation. Anal sex should be avoided by couples in which one of the partners has been diagnosed with an STI until the treatment has proven to be effective. In order to make anal sex safer, the couple must ensure that the anal area is clean and the bowel empty and the partner on whom anal penetration occurs should be able to relax. Regardless of whether anal penetration occurs by using a finger or the penis, the condom is the best barrier method to prevent transmission of STI. Since the rectum can be easily damaged, the use of lubricants is highly recommended even when penetration occurs by using the finger. Especially for beginners, using a condom on the finger is both a protection measure against STI and a lubricant source. Most condoms are lubricated and they allow less painful and easier penetration. Anal stimulation with a sex toy requires similar safety measures to anal penetration with a penis, in this case using a condom on the sex toy in a similar way. It is important that the man washes and cleans his penis after anal intercourse if he intends to penetrate the vagina. Bacteria from the rectum are easily transferred to the vagina, which may cause vaginal infections. When anal-oral cos ntact occurs, protection is required since this is a risky sexual behavior in which illnesses as Hepatitis A or STIs can be easily transmitted, as well as enteric infections. The dental dam or the plastic wrap[citation needed] are effective protection means whenever anilingus is performed. Anal sex has a number of health risks. Anal intercourse is the riskiest form of sexual activity for several reasons, including the following: The anus lacks the natural lubrication the vagina has. Penetration can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the bloodstream. This can result in the spread of sexually transmitted infections including HIV. Exposure to the human papillomavirus (HPV) may also lead to the development of anal warts and anal cancer. Using lubricants can help some, but doesnt completely prevent tearing. The tissue inside the anus is not as well protected as the skin outside theanus. Our external tissue has layers of dead cells that serve as a protective barrier against infection. The tissue inside the anus does not have this natural protection, which leaves it vulnerable to tearing and the spread of infection. The anus was designed to hold in feces. Repetitive anal sex may lead to weakening of the anal sphincter, making it difficult to hold in feces until you can get to the toilet. The anus is full of bacteria. Even if both partners do not have a sexually-transmitted infection or disease, bacteria normally in the anus can potentially infect the giving partner. Practicing vaginal sex after anal sex can also lead to vaginal and urinary tract infections.

Q what is sadomasochism ?

Sadomachochism referes to giving and/or receving pleasure usually sexual by acts invovling infliction or reception of pain or humiliation. The person seeks out sexual gratification from these acts.

Q Are cigars less detrimental to health than cigarettes?

"No. Cigars arent less harmful than cigarettes in any way. Rather they contain more carcinogenic tars, which make them worse than cigarettes. Moreover, when one smokes stogy, excess nicotine and carcinogens are inhaled through the mouth, which could cause dental problems,lung diseases, and cancers.
The reason behind the false repute of cigar being less harmul might be that generally cigar smokers are "occasional" users, and while puffing, most of them don~t inhale the smoke into their lungs. Stay away from cigarettes, cigars, pipes etc if you want to live healthy."

Q Having complaint of recurrent stye, occasionally painful what to do?

Bacterial infection of the eye lid causes stye. It is very common for stye to recur. Poor hygiene, blepharitis and acne rosacea increases your risk of developing stye. To prevent recurrence maintain adequate personal hygiene, take adequate treatment for underlying disorders like blepharitis or acne rosacea, if you use contact lenses make sure they are clean.

Q I have a sweaty palms and feet plz tell me right cure for it thanks

Sweating on palms and feet can be due to several reasons like nervousness, anxiety, panic attacks, excitement, due to certain foods or as a result of some underlying disease. Identifying and treating the underlying cause is the best solution. Treatment options include use of antiperspirants, iontophoresis, medications and surgery. Consult a dermatologist to help you with this. Till then you can try these home remedies: Soaking your hands in a solution of water + baking soda or water + black tea will reducing sweating when done regularly. Avoid putting your hands in pockets in order to hide them. It will worsen your situation. For your feet sweat: wear well fitted shoes. Whenever possible remove your shoes and air your feet. Wash your feet after you come home. Try to avoid wearing same shoes every day so that they get enough time to dry up.

Q How soon can I use tampons after giving birth?

You should not be using tampons for at least 6 weeks after childbirth. The uterus sheds lochia during this period for which you must stick to a sanitary napkin. Tampons can easily introduce infection since the tissues of the vagina have not yet healed completely. Once the discharge of lochia has stopped and your vaginal musculature has returned back to normal, you can start using tampons.

Q Whats the treatment of nervousness?

Nervousness by itself is not considered a serious problem. If nervousness is related with an anxiety disorder treatment is needed. The Nervousness refers to fearful thoughts with basic physical symptoms. The most important tool for reducing nervousness is exercise. It allows you to easily reduce your nervousness because it increases production of relaxing neurotransmitters while simultaneously burning hormones caused by stress and tiring the muscles so that anxiety symptoms are less severe. Sleep deprivation has a profound effect on nervousness. So sound sleep at least for 7 to 8 hours is necessary. Nervousness may be produced due to empty time, so stating busy is helpful to reduce it. Get yourself involved in work. Take interest in your hobby. Writing a diary is also good way as it provides a mental outlet. Consultation with a doctor is necessary if the symptoms are not controlled and are causing disturbance in mental and physical health.

Q I am 27 yr old . i am going to be married soon in few days. i have lot of hairs..on shoulders...back...and chest.. how should i remove them.? want less hairs on chest only

Having hair on chest, shoulders and back in common in men. You can trim chest hair; use the electric clipper with various attachments. It is painless and takes atleast a month to grow again. Using razor and shaving cream can lead to rapid regrowth. Instead get waxed. Though it can be a little painful, it lasts about 6 weeks. Trimming the back with an electric razor can help too. Electrolysis or laser hair removal options are there too but are expensive.

Q Can you have a normal ECG but an abnormal chest X-ray ?

Yes. This can happen. As both the investigations serve different purposes. ECG is restricted to evaluate and diagnose heart conditions. It does not give an idea about other structures in your chest cavity. But a chest X-ray is more elaborated and preliminary examination to detect any problems inside thoracic cage. Most commonly chest X-ray is advised to see lung condition, but its scope does not limit there. A normally functioning heart with problems to other organs and spaces inside chest cavity can give normal ECG with an abnormal chest X-ray.